#23 - What is Your Next Metamorphosis?

SUMMARY KEYWORDS

metamorphosis, butterflies, transformation, life, joy, feel, steak, thoughts, fails, balance, caterpillar, january, trisha, noise, hiccups, husband, friend, talk, caterpillars, waiting

SPEAKERS

Trisha Barita

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Hey there, I'm Trisha Barita. I'm a mother of twin girls, a wife, an entrepreneur, a psychology major, a lawyer, and a coach. With all these different roles in my life, in the past, I truly struggled with limiting beliefs in my ability to adequately juggle all these roles successfully, I often would be frustrated that time and again, I let my goals and dreams always take a backseat to everything else I was trying to do. And those dreams always seem to be on the horizon, just out of reach. Until I discovered tools and thought work to help me tackle and learn to balance all of it. Now, I don't let these titles define my limits. I define my balance in life by how I choose to show up for myself every day. Am I perfect? Hell no far from it. But I do work every day to believe in myself, and to be present with whatever I experienced in this life, The Good, the Bad, and The really fucking ugly. to own my truth and own my thoughts. I created this podcast to talk about how that noise gets in the way of our goals as women. And now I help women and teach them tools to cut the overwhelm of noise in their life, preventing them from getting the balance they want. If you like this podcast and want to take my free course to get started on designing your balance, and saying fuck that noise, go to Trisha barita.com forward slash free course. Now let's get after it.

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Hello, fabulous friends. So today's episode I want to talk about metamorphosis. One of Webster's definitions of metamorphosis is a striking alteration in appearance, character or circumstances and also a typically marked and more or less abrupt developmental change in the form, or structure. Of course, referencing the metamorphosis of caterpillars into butterflies. I think it's no surprise that of course, this natural phenomenon of the common Caterpillar transforming into this exquisite winged creature beauty has become a metaphor for transformation and hope. across many different cultures, religions, traditions, and it's been seen as a symbol of positivity, rebirth, of triumph and of spiritual growth. What is your next metamorphosis? What is your future butterfly self look like? Now, maybe you don't have any interest in a metamorphosis in your life. That's okay. That's totally cool. Maybe you're like one of my husband's best friends and, and how he feels about going out to eat. Let me just explain. Okay. By the way, he will never ever listen to this podcast is knowing him. So anyway, let me tell you his thoughts about going out to eat. Okay, basically doesn't much matter where we want to take him to dinner, or have him meet us for dinner. My husband's best friend, he's he's a, if he's not familiar with the plays, he's almost always gonna say like, do they have a burger or steak on the menu? He just says it plainly. He says I'm pretty much just a simple steak and cheese burger dude. So I prefer that. And if we went somewhere that didn't have that. I mean, I, I think he would figure it out. But I like that he doesn't apologize for that simple statement. I'm simply a steak and cheese burger dude. Which, which I find refreshing that he knows who he is. And, and honestly, he seems super happy with that. I can tell you in the many years that I've known him, which is well over two decades. My husband's best friend. He honestly has no interest in a metamorphosis in his culinary preferences. Now I know that's like a simplified version because I'm talking about a little bit bigger metamorphosis with us, but hopefully you get the point. So what about you? Do you want a metamorphosis in your life? Or do you feel like my husband's best friend. And he's my friend too. Of course, after all these years do you? Do you feel the way he feels about cheeseburger and steak, you know, in the culinary preferences, no need for changes. But if you if you do want to change, and a transformation and metamorphosis in your life, if you will, what does it look like for you? Sometimes thinking about where your joy comes from, and leaning more into that can be a starting point to discover where you might want a transformation. What is it that fills you up with joy? How do you get more of that without sacrificing who you are? But more transforming your life into a balance that works for you? Do you for instance, get time joy from time with your children or significant other or family or friends? Joy from art, joy from nature, joy from working out? Joy from quiet? Some people get a lot of joy from quiet joy from journaling. You What do you want more of in life? And how can you get more? What metamorphosis Do you want to create in your life? What are you waiting for to create this change and transformation in your life? A lot of people wait till January 1 to do all this type of thinking. I'm going to be honest with you. I don't believe in being limited by January 1 resolutions or even finding them necessary. I mean, I love them. I agree it feels good to make them at the time, you know, New Years and,

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and this whole thing, but have you ever made a January 1 resolution and then had some hiccups gave up on it. And then you rolled back around to the next new year. And you just felt like crap that you didn't get it done this year? Well, let me tell you this, that beating yourself up. It's bullshit. So you tried something, and you had hiccups you had fails. So what that is normal. In fact, I would say almost required. The part that is BS is that you beat yourself up. Sometimes you don't want to think about the hiccups, the fails, or how long this journey to change feels that will take the journey though is part of a transformation process is part of the caterpillar turning into the butterfly? Do you deal with butterflies there isn't like a day the transformation is done. It's over a span of time and different butterflies, different species are different circumstances for each butterfly may may change when it is that they complete through their transformation. So do you think butterflies like turn to each other and go? What took you so damn long? I was out on day nine and you didn't get here until day? 50? No, that's a no they don't do that for me. And I don't think they do so. And, you know, some butterflies due to the environment that they're surrounded by like a butterfly in a desert, for instance, they may take much longer to even come out of the cocoon, because they may be waiting for certain environmental changes. Or they may be you know, continuing their process. So. So on this journey, there's going to be fails. And it's going to take however long it's going to take. And yes, you may have a lot of thoughts about that along the way. I know I know. And processing those thoughts about how long it takes. And the fails. That's part of the work you have to do. It can be uncomfortable. But it can be amazing too. So when you feel frustrated, and you have many thoughts of disappointment, what could you do? I think you could remember that to change into the woman that you want to be that has the balance you want. That meditates journal spends time for herself and doesn't feel guilty, that is present in life with her loved ones that spends time on her joy, or whatever she may look like for you. She has to go through a metamorphosis. She has to do things different. She has to feel things different. And most importantly, she has to think different. And that my friend does not happen overnight. I know because I've been there and I've helped other women through this journey. I remember wanting so desperately to be my future self that it felt at times that the journey was too long that I would never get there that I would never figure anything out. But I promise don't give up on yourself because During that metamorphosis transformation, if you will, it will always require you giving into the concept that not only will you have to do, feel and think differently, you'll have to fall and pick yourself back up. And for many of us, learning to do that is the biggest struggle. See, when you pick a goal on January 1, and somewhere along the way, you give it up or stop seeking it. And, and then you come back again around to it, you know, that next year. That's all part of the falling. You just have to see that it's possible to stop waiting for an arbitrary societal date to pick yourself back up. So this is what I say. Caterpillars don't wait until January 1 to metamorphosis into butterflies. So why the hell would you Let's get after it today, start creating the life you want today. And I'll leave you with that. Now go get after it. You got this

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Hey, thanks for listening today. If you enjoyed this episode, and are a woman ready to say fuck that noise, so you can start designing the balance in your life. Go take my free course to get started at Trisha barita.com forward slash free course. Now Have an awesome day and I'll see you next week.